Further to the post yesterday on some pretty eye opening results of a survey on infidelity, I am going to take a further investigation into the world of the adulterer and the cheat.
Before we start I should point out that the purpose of this post is not to judge anyone. Should you feel the need to have relations outside of your marriage or relationship that is entirely a matter for you.
Evidence shows that some of the issues that surround who cheats and if “once a cheat, always a cheat” applies as often as we tend to assume are pretty varied. Factors that lead to cheating are as follows:
• Religion. This does not sit well with me I stress. The research shows that if you hold faith you are far less likely to cheat. I would add there have been a great many cases where this has clearly not been the case however the research speaks for itself.
• Political stance. The research suggests those who are more liberal tend to be more likely to have an affair. I would once again stress that this also does not sit comfortably with me. I would suggest that a more conservative stance would make you far more likely to be religious and therefore less likely to cheat. I would also suggest that in certain groups a lack of faith and more liberal attitudes would go hand in hand with open relationships.
• The individual relationship. This is where things get more interesting. Some people become cheaters because of the relationship they are in. I would suggest this is the first piece of the puzzle that would suggest that the phrase “once a cheat, always a cheat” should be reconsidered. People in this group tend to cheat because their current relationship is unfulfilling. It’s not an excuse but it is a reason.
• The situation. Some people would just cause this temptation. It is generally assumed to be situations such as office parties and working away. My take on this group is that they would probably continue to cheat given the opportunity and should probably not be trusted. Life is full of challenges and if you give in to your wants when someone offers it on a plate you should probably consider looking long and hard in the mirror.
So there we have it. Coupled with the statistics I posted yesterday this is a clear picture about cheating and infidelity in the world we live in today. The internet has made it easier for people to cheat and the third part of this series of articles will look further at just how easy it is to cheat in the 21st century and how it is practically encouraged.